A day off…
So what does one do when she has the day off? Sleep in!!! Fo sho, I slept in and I got up and went shopping. I met up with my buddy Johan and we hung out for a while. Now…this is where I add another guy to my list of “Notable Men”. Johan is a fun guy. He’s a gentleman and he’s honest. I can tell God has been working in his life lately and He is making amazing changes.
I got home and painted a bit more. That was nice and relaxing. It was also a lot warmer than running around in the pouring rain.
I was excited to get a chance to hear from RHMC guy tonight! He mentioned something that I thought was really funny at first, but then as I considered it more…I found it to be sort of true. I’m still unsure however, if it’s a good thing or a bad thing. He made the observation that things seem traumatic through a girl’s perspective. I wanted to ask him what he meant exactly because I think I might have jumped to conclusions on what his exact definition of “traumatic” is. But anyway, here’s what he said.
imxxxxman: I already know that everything is traumatic for girls
PoluOwau: LOL
imxxxxman: at least it seems that way to them
PoluOwau: sometimes…
PoluOwau: things are traumatic simply because we have nothing else to worry about
PoluOwau: I suppose
PoluOwau: but does it seem like I think things are traumatic?imxxxxman: girls worry an awful lot
PoluOwau: haha
imxxxxman: oh yeah…but so do all girls
imxxxxman: you’re not alone
PoluOwau: yes, and you men are supposed to provide assurance
PoluOwau: 🙂 or something of that nature
PoluOwau: haha
imxxxxman: yeah whatever
imxxxxman: 😉
PoluOwau: you don’t think so?
PoluOwau: haha
PoluOwau: well gee, that explains a lot
imxxxxman: that’s our role?
PoluOwau: haha, sometimes
PoluOwau: I don’t know that ‘roles’ are exactly static all the time
imxxxxman: true….but guys should be supportive…stable….
PoluOwau: yea, those are the words I was looking for
imxxxxman: ….girls are allowed to be all over the place
PoluOwau: haha
imxxxxman: 😀
PoluOwau: well, you did put that quite frankly
imxxxxman: I do that sometimes…
PoluOwau: so is that what you got from my journal? that I’m all over the place?
PoluOwau: haha
imxxxxman: no…..I’m making a judgement on all girls….
PoluOwau: oh ok
Well, I suppose the least I could say is that “you learn something new everyday!”. So with my new wisedom I will acknowledge that I am going to see this with a traumatic perspective and admit that I am once again stumped as to what this boy is thinking. People intrigue me and I wish so bad sometimes that I could know what is running through their minds. Another thing that RHMC guy pointed out is that it seems like I have a lot of boy problems. This sort of puzzled me until I read back on some previous posts. I suppose it does seem like I have boy problems…but the truth is I don’t have boy problems…I just have a lot of boys that I am friends with that I talk about. So I wouldn’t necessarily say I have boy ‘problems’ as much as I have boy ‘issues’. I don’t know if that clears anything up…but hey, I tried!
What’s the difference?
What is the difference between a boy ‘problem’ and a boy ‘issue’?
Re: What’s the difference?
Well, the word ‘problem’ has a negative conotation to it and I wouldn’t consider my boy situations to be ‘negative’ per se. So I guess I use the word ‘issues’ because it sounds more pleasant. (and it makes me feel better about myself, haha) But honestly, do you really think I have ‘boy problems’? I don’t think I do, but perhaps I’m missing something. I’m so confused! haha.
Re: What’s the difference?
I don’t think you have boy ‘problems’. I was just curious what you thought the difference was between a problem and an issue regarding your situations with guys. I do think you have a lot of boys or guys in your life. They are your friends, therefore when you talk about issues or things going on, guys seem to come up more so than girls. It isn’t necessarily a bad thing. And isn’t something, even if they are problems, that should make you feel badly about yourself. I’m not sure if I’m making sense. But the short answer you were looking for regarding your question is ‘no, you don’t have boy problems’.
Re: What’s the difference?
Thanks! That’s good to know! 🙂