Comments on: Update on Israel’s proposal

By: trademehalos

trademehalos — Wed, 17 Aug 2005 09:41:47 +0000

on the other hand

his response email was SO sweet. and honestly, you know that's how you want to be pursued. He said he would wait for you! Obviously he will be waiting a long while...but that is really sweet.

Good luck to you and Kyle though! I'm happy for you guys

By: trademehalos

trademehalos — Wed, 17 Aug 2005 09:40:15 +0000

I agree with this. yep. Kenny pretty much said it all. Kyle doesn’t even know Israel’s culture…and we don’t either. Maybe it’s much more common for people to do this sort of thing there? Anyway, he should let it go…it wasn’t your fault and you’re doing all the right things so he shouldn’t be worrying about Israel who doesn’t even know where you live anyway so he’s not really part of the equation. But for his sake, maybe you should ask him how he feels about you keeping in contact with Israel and think about what sort of consequences it might have on your relationship with Kyle if you do continue to email him.

By: valor

valor — Tue, 16 Aug 2005 05:29:32 +0000

I don’t think my girlfriend would like that. =)

By: firewallender

firewallender — Tue, 16 Aug 2005 04:11:04 +0000

No proposals, Valor!

By: valor

valor — Tue, 16 Aug 2005 02:12:04 +0000

We need to hang out.

By: firewallender

firewallender — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 13:07:53 +0000

I’d agree with the others, it was definately in poor form to insist after two proposals that you are for each other, but I wouldn’t say it’s immoral. So yes, it may be culturally related. I would say, for any time he mentions it make it a clear no. If you just ignore it, it will only get worse.

By: danjor

danjor — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 11:31:18 +0000

I think pursuing someone even though they are already with someone else is a bad idea under most circumstances. The pursuer is just setting him or herself up for heartbreak.

I'm not "taken" either in the technical sense. I love my girlfriend a lot,and because of that my feelings for her make it hard to think of any other girl as anything other than a friend. I think "dating" is really a series of levels of interest/commitment. As the relationship progresses, you're still not married or even engaged, but you're moving closer to that point slowly testing the relationship as the commitment to each other grows, and the relationship is faced with challenges.

I do think it was disrespectful to Kyle for Israel to include a poem in the email, and disrespectful to you to persist with proposals after you nicely told him no, and even explained why not.

By: propheceye

propheceye — Mon, 15 Aug 2005 10:21:44 +0000

Dating covers everything from going out for a cup of coffee to practically being married but without the silly piece of paper. Many girls also make it a point to date multiple guys at the same time. In my opinion, it is in bad taste, my not morally wrong for Israel to propose, especially taking into account you and Kyle have been dating again for a month or two and aren’t super serious yet (unless you are and I never got the memo).

Kyle on the other hand shouldn’t be so pissed off. If I were him, I would be flattered that I am with such a kick-ass girl that she gets random desperate marriage proposals and isn’t even a celebrity. In fact I might find it amusing but I’m sorta sick like that.

As for pursuing someone while they are with someone else, I would like to if it wasn’t in such bad taste and a bad idea overall... and if I weren’t so damn nice. I met this girl that is so much like me it is creepy (to the point where I think she may just be another figment of my imagination). Ah but what fun would life be if not to be toyed with constantly by chance/fate/God?