http://sarahmadson.com/2004/12/last-night-and-this-morning-update-for-the-ladies/ I like to write. Sat, 02 Jan 2010 00:39:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://sarahmadson.com/2004/12/last-night-and-this-morning-update-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-720 distortedeyez Wed, 22 Dec 2004 17:12:07 +0000 http://sarahmadson.com/2004/12/last-night-and-this-morning-update-for-the-ladies/#comment-720 <p>Read - Hiding From Love</p> Read – Hiding From Love

]]> http://sarahmadson.com/2004/12/last-night-and-this-morning-update-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-719 propheceye Wed, 22 Dec 2004 00:59:03 +0000 http://sarahmadson.com/2004/12/last-night-and-this-morning-update-for-the-ladies/#comment-719 <p><i>Is it possible to avoid attachments?</i></p> <p>Yes.</p> <p><i>Is this normal? </i></p> <p>No.</p> <p><i>But maybe he wasn't a true friend...but just a guy with ulterior motives?</i></p> <p>Even if this were true (which it probably was), you shouldn’t hold it against him. Everyone has their own self-serving motives for their actions. Your actions were based on the motive of friendship… but what makes your motive of friendship so much better than his motives of seeking a relationship? Are they both not desires of all human beings and both with in alignment with ethical principles? Besides, how can his motives be ulterior when you said yourself they were always out in the open?</p> <p><i>How can you care for someone so much and yet not want a relationship with them? </i></p> <p>It’s easy, just convince yourself that you require much more than love, care, and friendship out of a relationship.</p> <p>Don’t beat yourself up too much though. You suffer from the same thing that the rest of humanity suffers from… and that is the ability for us to analyze a situation, determine what the right thing to do is, but then do something else because we fear the pain that doing the right thing would cause. In this case you probably realized it would have been best to do a better job of running away or have taken the relationship route but you feared the consequences of both so you let things be.</p> <p>We like to think we are free to make choices but in reality, we are slaves to our disposition. The only way to change our ability to make choices for the better is to fundamentally change who we are… and like I said before, this can usually only be done with pain. With that being said, take heart and take this opportunity to make things better for yourself and others in future friendships and relationships.</p> Is it possible to avoid attachments?
Yes.
Is this normal?
No.
But maybe he wasn’t a true friend…but just a guy with ulterior motives?
Even if this were true (which it probably was), you shouldn’t hold it against him. Everyone has their own self-serving motives for their actions. Your actions were based on the motive of friendship… but what makes your motive of friendship so much better than his motives of seeking a relationship? Are they both not desires of all human beings and both with in alignment with ethical principles? Besides, how can his motives be ulterior when you said yourself they were always out in the open?
How can you care for someone so much and yet not want a relationship with them?
It’s easy, just convince yourself that you require much more than love, care, and friendship out of a relationship.
Don’t beat yourself up too much though. You suffer from the same thing that the rest of humanity suffers from… and that is the ability for us to analyze a situation, determine what the right thing to do is, but then do something else because we fear the pain that doing the right thing would cause. In this case you probably realized it would have been best to do a better job of running away or have taken the relationship route but you feared the consequences of both so you let things be.
We like to think we are free to make choices but in reality, we are slaves to our disposition. The only way to change our ability to make choices for the better is to fundamentally change who we are… and like I said before, this can usually only be done with pain. With that being said, take heart and take this opportunity to make things better for yourself and others in future friendships and relationships.

]]> http://sarahmadson.com/2004/12/last-night-and-this-morning-update-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-718 trademehalos Tue, 21 Dec 2004 18:23:25 +0000 http://sarahmadson.com/2004/12/last-night-and-this-morning-update-for-the-ladies/#comment-718 <p>I read it. And funny...I still don't know who you're talking about. But, how was this a surprise?</p> I read it. And funny…I still don’t know who you’re talking about. But, how was this a surprise?

]]> http://sarahmadson.com/2004/12/last-night-and-this-morning-update-for-the-ladies/comment-page-1/#comment-717 firewallender Tue, 21 Dec 2004 18:23:19 +0000 http://sarahmadson.com/2004/12/last-night-and-this-morning-update-for-the-ladies/#comment-717 <p>Thanks for sharing, it actually helps to know that other people are confused besides yourself. You rock, m'dear. Keep on keepin' on. </p> <p>Remember, if the Lord brings you to it, He'll bring you through it.</p> Thanks for sharing, it actually helps to know that other people are confused besides yourself. You rock, m’dear. Keep on keepin’ on.
Remember, if the Lord brings you to it, He’ll bring you through it.

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